Wednesday, October 27, 2010

Reinventing the emotion called Love..........

Why does love fade away when everything is happening as planned? Why does love require constant assurance that it is always present between two people?.......... Why is Mr.Love so confused and requires constant morale boost up?


I have found love in different people in different ways and also the ways to express them........... I found love in my mom, dad, Ashok, Anup, my friends........ and the way of expression differs from one person to another..... But when we are surrounded by love around us in these forms, why the dialogue comes out in a second when we are hurt " No one loves me......." or " You don't love me anymore....."... I remember me saying it to my brother so many times when he was angry on me or when we had fight........ Why do we always need to be assured that person loves us and is not going away from you or hurt you?..........


I heard love fades away when you are always in presence of the person whom you expect to love, you start finding ways to drift apart and have a time of yours, person starts becoming irritated in ways you would have never imagined, the likes becomes more of dislikes............ But then my very next question to such people is,  was their love based on conditions and blind only to bind itself to what it sees? Why cant one also enjoy the unexpectedness of the emotion called Love? 


When a girlfriend cries of emotion that her boyfriend got a gift, thats okay for him...but if she is basically an emotional girl and keeps crying on every small thing, it becomes irritating for same guy............ The boy and girl would have all the energy and the adrenaline rush to see each other after work when they are dating or just engaged to each other but post marriage, guy or gal would think Ah! same face every day.......


Wasn't these expected to happen? Yes, but why then the denial from the heart?That would mean that love was just conditional....  Amongst so many relations in life, true relations are ones with your family... your dad, mom, brother,sister, husband......... No matter how good you are, you do for others its just not appreciated........ When some one does something good for other, least expected is a smile on face or a word or two in appreciation..... Thats would be the only motivation to do but if things go sour or bad between the same two people, why does all the good deed done, become a give and take relation? "I did this for you...so what I did that for you "........


I believe true love does not fade away with time,but it can only get stronger...yes, the surface gets little junky but feeling always is more stronger.......You never hurt anyone if love is for true........ You would recreate or reinvent the magic to make the other person happy.... As told by my wise friend Shraddhu, If husband has become a couch potato after marriage, just plan something nice to get him off his butt and that silly couch...... go for candlelight dinner, unplanned movies. a gym together.... If mom is upset and sad, help her get on her feet,find some work which she really wanted to do......... If dad is boggled down with some issues, have a talk with him and then enjoy a movie of Charlie Chaplin.......... 


It just about how you keep reinventing the way you want to express, that you love the person and also that it wont fade away... But most importantly, you need to love one person the most so that you can keep going with others, and that love is for YOURSELF.....





1 comment:

  1. An excellent understanding about the true love. some people are expressive and some are not. Expecting an appreciation from a non expressive person and finding it hard to consume the out come seeds the frustration or creates a doubt about the true love. But once you have identified a person as a true lover, accept him/her as he/she is there. Otherwise expecting even a appreciation/reaction for the true love you have spread, Ur love changes gets polluted itself into a conditional love , which is not a true love. At the same time whenever a love (either true or conditional) flows towards U always make it a point to appreciate from bottom of UR heart. By practicing it, your presence will always makes every body happy .
    Papa

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